Ha! Geweldig, even terug in Holland. Leuk om weer terug te zijn bij dit super duo….
Ik kom niet meer bij! Applaus… applause… Encore… encore…
Ha! Geweldig, even terug in Holland. Leuk om weer terug te zijn bij dit super duo….
Ik kom niet meer bij! Applaus… applause… Encore… encore…
August 14th 2017
A process of gradual awakening and unfolding, like a dawn. In messengers and teachers I’ve encountered in my life, I’ve found similar descriptions and views, which are in contrast to the way “The Event” is described by a virtual group with the name Prepare for Change. An event as being a flash reaching planet Earth, a sudden change. Mind you, I don’t deny such a possibility. It’s just that I can’t see it as something that will happen.
I’m always using Nature as an example and teacher of how developments in life occur, be it in planet Earth’s nature or in a human’s nature. Which is related. As within so without. To me, a gradual process of Awakening, the transition from 3D to 5D with the 4D bridge in between, offers each human being an opportunity to move with the flow of change and to gain insights, finding new approaches and solutions, by being given the time to work that out, a playground of practice, if you will. If that time is used for that purpose is a choice. That choice might present itself in deep grief or despair, it’s what causes the crack in the egg, allowing light to enter. Remember Leonard Cohen’s song with that line? “There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in”
A gradual awakening, which is happening at this moment on planet Earth, as I perceive it, is not only a calmer process but it also offers each human being, all sentient beings on the planet, a process of embodiment of the facets in these gradual changes and moves. Those inner motions, inner digestion if you will, contains a treasure box for our present and future adventures, in that embodiment of the truth offers us wisdom and skills in our assistance towards others around us and our future comrades, who knows, different civilisations inside planet Earth, or all through our Galaxy?
As I perceive it and envision, we are given an opportunity to be present as observers, in that change, as much as active players in that change.
To me, a gradual process feels logical and natural. I’m sharing my observations, while finding many new thoughts and inner stirrings, knowing that I can miss clues, be mistaken or poorly informed. There’s unity possible in a variety of expressions, which is the essence of free will to me. To me, it’s each of us that can and will be the key to bring the restoration of freedom of expression about.
In the end there’s no formula or rule to live by. Only the power of love that transforms everything, if we live in integrity to the love and truth that are our favourite companions. I’m now keeping an eye on my inner world, while active in the outer world, engaging in events, initiatives and new friendships, holding integrity high. I’ve realised that I was drawn out of my healthy boundaries by obeying to my curiosity and exploring mind. It’s walking on a tight rope with balance as the main focus, using every muscle.
That became an adventure, in the last 18 months, where I left my inner sanctuary and lost balance. Isn’t it tempting how internet can draw us in that direction? It’s almost as if exploring many global movements and events turns into a consumption of data, pieces of a puzzle, dots to connect, in some form of devouring, not serving discernment or understanding and causing obstipation in our spiritual digestive system.
I’m beginning to see that dramatic events on a global change, for the better or the worse, aren’t necessarily proof of their creator’s integrity. Integration and integrity are siblings in finding direction on our path and I’m finding (again) that the world of physical form, tangible and including our 5 senses, is the best workfloor for discernment in sync with embodying our soul, even when we have no clue what a “soul” is.
Simultaneously, the bridge between life in the streets, with confused human beings in all sorts of conditions, and the world of spiritual workers, healers and warriors can be build much easier. There’s much unsubstantial content in the virtual world, after all, it’s a world that shows up on our screens, created with 1’s and 0’s in endless amounts of combinations.
It’s a flat linear world, it’s why we’re able to press the delete button and undo all content in that world. Besides, I feel we’re not supposed to be informed about all drama happening on planet Earth and find it presented in screaming neon-light. The forms of distraction that lead us away from our center are numerous, be aware please.
It’s a cosmic humor to me that the non-physical parts of me, which I call my soul, astral body and etheric body, are natural parts of me, while my mind can’t wrap its head around it. The process of awakening seems to be a knock on our inner doors, where some of these door give access to unknown rooms with unused furniture and a spinning wheel that helps us spin our thread and weave our own pattern in life.
Creating one that isn’t copying others is dangerous at times, but it’s probably also the key to a liberation we’re longing for. Inner freedom, overcoming fear. First and foremost in our own home, our inner sanctuary.
Peace be with you and with planet Earth. Blessed be, Devon Sea Moor.
August 4 2017
My view on the process of Awakening or the Flowering of Human Consciousness.
To be clear, I’m not against trial and error or any feelings and the awareness of them, as a human being in progress. It’s the instant karma, or the fruit of what we’ve sown, staring in our face, that I’m addressing now. Triggers are all over the place and much drama is acted out in many ways. On the global political arena and in all organisations based on abuse of power and money.
Some people feel blissful, some feel depressed, many experience all the shades and mood-swings in between. Be it doubtful, insecure or feeling alienated to what seemed familiar, predictable, or taken for granted. Much isn’t what is presented as truth, factual.
I’ve come to a conclusion that we need to step out of the 3D paradigm of judgment and dualistic thinking, before we’re able to grasp the true nature of Awakening aka The Flowering of Human Consciousness.
To me, there’s a stepping out of the box as in leaving The Matrix, the lifestyle of the common people obeying to the norm presented to us in all manners, in between (by starting attempts such as moments in history with spiritual upliftment) as well as a stepping out of a box that is our self-made moral instruction manual, based on our experiences in a 3D vibration and the interpretations thereof, our conception of them.
To outgrow that program takes a while and needs excersize and maintainance of our attitude going through change. A change that is, to me, a “once in a lifecycle time” presented to us, humanity at large, for the first time in all the many lives we (may) have lived on planet Earth. The sun in our Solar System, our life- and light-giver, is nurturing us in more ways than our physical existence.
Imagine the sun as a lens, passing on “data” coming from the center of our Galaxy. The position of our Solar System is in line with a larger positioning in our Galaxy, that is coming into an effect now. An aligning with a source of information, some call it The Photon Belt or The Event Horizon (check the work of Nassim Haramein and Gregg Braden if you wish to learn more of what that means). Remember Dec. 21 2012?
The ancient Maya culture defined that date as “The end of time as we know it”.
When you hold that vision in your mind’s eye, imagining that channel or portal, connecting the center of the Galaxy with our Sun, which passes the data through its firey mass and sends it to planet Earth. Part of the change now, is that science and spiritual knowledge begins to connect, finding resonance in recognizing that the Sun is physically, or at least in its functioning, is changing. Forget the warnings about the Sun causing cancer, that’s a construction of lies meant to withhold you of receiving the beneficial rays of the Sun indirectly in your eyes.
Sungazers choose the early or late hour of the day, to look into the Sun. They start with 10 seconds first, slowly building up the length of time when sungazing. Never attempt to look directly in the sun at noon. With the August 21st 2017 Solar Eclipse coming, it’s commonly known that it’s advised to use a device when looking at the Sun. On a cloudy day there’s still sunlight present, there’s still light to see the world around us.
I’ll tell you something I’ve experienced, also related to an Awakening, regarding sunlight and eyes: I’ve experienced a change in my eyes and brain, taking 9 months. Painful? Yes, unless during sleep, which took 14 hours out of 24 hours, for the first 4 months. My eyes couldn’t bear the light of the sun or lamps, I had to cover my eyes and head, when going outdoors. Fortunately, I was aware of what happened, at least, the cause.
One week after my decision to stop my catering business Andermaal, Sept. 1995, my eyes were red and sore when I woke up one day. Call it a burn out (the term was unknown at the time) a process of grieving, a wake up call, it doesn’t matter. After a few months of burning pain in my eyes and exhaustion (hence my need for many hours of sleep), I stood one morning in my living room, feeling as if I stood with my back against the wall.
I knew that on that moment I was given a choice. Either I would say “No” to my life and I knew that I would die, due to the breakdown of my immune system, or I would say “Yes” to my life and live. Without thinking my answer was “YES!” Like a bell ringing, it was a sensation through all fibers of my being and physical body. Something shifted inside, I knew that from that moment all would work out for the better and that springtime of the next year (1996) my health would be restored, including my eyes.
There was more involved, apart from my eyes, but it’s hard to put it in words. Let’s say that I restored what was out of balance, in some way…. missing or slumbering.
A next challenge was my friends and family warning me that I risked going blind when I didn’t visit an eye-doctor. Out of curiosity I visited an antroposophic doctor, who offered me a little bottle with drops, to sooth the burning sensation in my eyes. I remember the sensation of putting a drop from that bottle into my eyes and how my whole brain reacted to it. It shows how sensitive that part of my body was, during this process. The drops didn’t make any difference, nothing physical was visible as a sign of danger, except the redness of my eyes. I guess I’m blessed with the wisdom to trust my body and intuition.
My usual response, to those who were concerned with my eye-condition, was “Everything will be alright, don’t worry, be happy”. Once you say “YES” to life, life begins to nurture and support you in surprising ways, though it’s life’s natural course to do it anyway. It’s an experience I’ve lived and am still living.
Afterwards, oh yes indeed, springtime 1996 was the time of complete recovery, my eyes had no need for any protection, no sunglasses either. I’m wearing glasses to support my sight. See what happens when you put your sunglasses away, unless you’re driving a car at an hour with the sun low near the horizon. Never risk bumper bumping and accidents of course.
Without exception the Sun is showering us with light. And light is energy and information both. Being rich or poor doesn’t make a difference. We’re the conductors of life’s orchestra as well as the musicians, as I see it. We’re insiders and observers both, in our lives and we can begin to use that to our advantage and become who we’ve been waiting for. And I myself choose to be the change I long to see and make manifest before my healthy eyes.
To me, Awakening isn’t a one moment breakthrough of awareness. Isn’t the flowering of a tree a gradual process, a joy to witness for our eyes? As I perceive it, Awakening is a process of evolution in the organization of our human affairs in our physical world and conditions of living as much as it’s happening, potentially, in the affairs of our mind-set and consciousness, also our discernment, decisions and choices to act upon them.
If it’s true that truth is in our inner world in company of our individual definition of reality, our chosen curriculum, living that truth is determined by that same inner world as well. To me, that’s the essence of embodiment, bridging the world of ideas, our soul purpose and our planetary 3D experiences, so that discernment is possible which is leading to Human Awakening as well as to Awareness of what it is that causes it, a chance to look at the nuts and bolts of that process. Which, to me, is a treasure box of tools to take with us on our path to again another unfamiliar world, a new existence in a Golden Age, a New Earth, choose your own preferred name.
In that stance, there’s no need for an external savior, no need for Cosmic Dependency. Human Awakening is happening now, as I perceive it. It’s a delicate process in the use of our will, to find what it is that we call valuable in the making of our choice, in our way of looking at what manifests in our life and our judgments, our definitions and actions.
As I perceive it, humanity is coming off its knees now, in the end of the second decennium in the 21st century, realizing that it has a voice and can use its voice to make manifest what’s serving life in all nooks and crannies of its existence, its organization of a civilization that serves life and the well-being of all sentient beings. This time on planet Earth, which, to me, is the fulfillment of many prophecies that were left in words and symbols, in stone or clay, on tree-bark, deerskin and in the dead see scrolls.
The risk of presenting Awakening as a one moment FLASH, similar to miraculous eye -openers for those who lived as saints afterwards, is that it creates expectations and passive waiting in those that wait for a saviour, or a saving grace. That’s what I understand is causing people to feel impatient and angry, finding no evidence of their, to me, false hopes and unhelpful expectations. It makes one live in the future and leave the present moment, that doesn’t work.
For me, it works much better to live through my days and be the change I love to see happen in the world outside of me. And to find clarity about it, in my choices and actions. No need of a vision or miracle to live up to or wait for. If such a thing happens, well, than it happens. We can ask for guidance, there’s help and support always. It’s wise to take these words at heart, literally “Ask and you shall be given”.
All that is projected on the moment of Awakening, can be actually lived, in full action of taking part in daily life, in being part of a community, a nation, each moment of our life. I’m aware of growing through a change of perception, after visiting websites with spiritual views on the meaning of Awakening. I’m done now, with internet study on this subject.
In essence, what I’m saying here is all about letting go of restrictions, control and expectations, a compassionate eye for our quirks, ruts and whirring windmills in our mind, opening our heart, realizing love. In our NOW. In all of our NOWS at the same time, like the flow of a forest stream, gurgling over rocks. The stream is created by billions of water – drops, each of them contributes to the physical watery reality of the stream.
In that way we are the creators of Awakening each moment in our life. It’s much closer to HOME where the HEART is. It feels like an organic procedure, balanced and least unsettling. It’s a choice I made, these last months. Therefore I’ve become my path and way-showers along that path both.
May you find blessings and warm rays of the Sun on your path. Devon Sea Moor.
“If you are awake, right now, you can be aware of the awareness whereby you are awake. And in that singularity of consciousness as Soren (Kierkegard) has said, the total number of minds in the Universe is one. That is, it is a singularity. We all trap it, we capture and trap it in our egos, in our bodies and our cells. But in reality the nature of the conscious mind is that it’s omnipresent, infinite. All the time, whether you acknowledge it or not. But there are protocols in practices and meditation that you can do, that put you in touch with that expanded infinite aspect. And from there begin to operate, whether it is in a lucid dream or whether it is out under the stars, with a team of close encounters of the fifth kind, folks”.
Dr. Steven Greer.
Hello dear visitor, it’s been a while, since I published a journal about my new life in Britain. Now, at the start of March 2017, after an adventurous period of house hunting, with bizarre encounters and tribulations, my Dutch frankness isn’t always welcome to landlords and landladies, I’ve found a home in the South of Devon. (the first week of May I’ve moved again!)
The sun is in the home all day round and the views are far. Where I am I’m on a high place, very safe from flooding! Close to the sea and to Dartmoor, two goodies in one bag. Hello to you in the image below! The green oasis next to St. Mary’s church in Totnes.
After moving 3 times in one year I’m looking forward to a time of rest, enjoying the first year of my retirement without worries and anxiety and the relief that my time is mine. What better time of year than finding my feet and leaving footsteps in this landscape of rolling hills! March and April are the months I enjoyed living in Bridgetown Totnes.
Due to a landlord deciding only on impulse, what a difference with the Dutch way! I had to leave again and found a much better living space in Ashburton. Less density of hippie trippie, flakey and plonker-type people and less tourism, no beggars in the streets here. Totnes is challenged to consider its policy regarding homeless people, for the kindness to offer shelter and food creates a magnetic effect to those looking for it. You can’t keep everybody happy, can you? It’s a typical Totnes style to keep everything vague with a smile and suggest as if it is so. Nonsense! Totnes may suffer from the airy fairy virus a bit too much.
There’s more quietude and, most welcome, Ashburton is closer to the Moors! This part of Devon is where I feel at home. Totnes is a nice town for visits to the Friday/Sat. market and musical events. Totnes is on a 45 min. busride from where I live now.
A hollow tree on the way to Ashprington and a dog with watchful eyes
Copyright @2012 tHEARTofCARE
This is a compilation of 3 comments shared in The Guardian, Sept. 3rd 2016, in a discussion about anger management, related to an article presented by Nicola Skinner. The topic is parents losing it with their kids and kids losing respect for their parents.
My Dutch view was praised, some commenters felt happily surprised and thankful for a view from outside their English way of life. I am Dutch and I live in the UK now. Many UK residents know what the issues are, but they don’t know how/choose to act on it. The complacency, aloofness and often cynical and self-depricating stance in life is something that is unknown to me.
Here’s what I published:
As a Dutch born global citizen, I’m amazed by the lack of education in many English residents, parents and people of all ages, not aware and not realizing that when feelings arise, such as resentment and anger, that this is our own creation. We are triggered to enter that state. I didn’t know that when I was younger, to be honest. Do we learn about managing our emotional life? I don’t think so, we learn by trial and error, mainly.
Anger, or any uncomfortable feeling isn’t caused by another person or a child’s behavior, obstinate and avoiding co-operation. I’ve worked as a childminder since the 80’s and I’ve seen the changes happening in many family homes. With parents, gradually losing their natural authority over their kids. Their ability to be guides.
Not because they wanted to lose it, but because of the fast pace of life, the pressure of work and the increase of distraction with all sorts of toys, devices, gaming, internet and tv. A greed for always wanting more, a need for distration of discomfort, which is at the root of depression, as I perceive it.
The use of common sense, taking the time to sit down and sort things out, with oneself and, as parent, with the kids, seems to become a thing from the past. It requires vulnerabilty in honesty and listening. Oh my….!!!
Kids know, they’re intelligent, they can tell exactly how they want their parents to BE with them and express in words and eyes what they need. They copy the behavior of parents and adults in their lives. The body language of children doesn’t lie, they’re innocent from the start and they’re at the start of their life, fast growing out of it when parents ignore them, moving into survival mode, a defense of obstinacy.
It’s not the fault of a child seeing their more or less burnt out parents with their attention on the screen, tired with a headache, drowning sorrow in beer or wodka, angry for having to live up to standards that are comparable to slavery. That’s what we’ve become really, 9-5 working slaves, 24-7 with deadlines to be reached.
A child knows exactly how to push the buttons of adults who try to bully them into subservience. I’ve noticed that hierarchy in the workplace and abuse of power, by violent communication in shops or restaurants, is a daily life practice in England.
English residents mix their professional stance with personal views, blurring the effectiveness of a discussion, finding solutions and good results. I see many fearful people in England, closing up as soon as uncomfortable feelings arise, specially in public places.
It’s a deeply ingrained pattern, a remnant of the old world, the Victorian education system, that all uncomfortable feelings need to be suppressed. Denied into absence, so to speak. The rhinoceros on the English dining table is huge!!!
Holland has a very different history, we’ve learned and lived through the storm of the sixties and seventies, the hippie and provo movement. We’ve moved on with sometimes fierce feminism, with abused moms finding safety in shelters called “Stay away from my body” homes. They were as much part of “the game” as their husbands, both projecting issues on each other. And anger. Anticonception offered relief to many women. My mother had 9 children without having a say in what she could endure. I’m born in 1951 as the third child, the oldest daugther.
The workpressure is as high in Holland as in the UK and it’s not hunky dory at all, over there, with parents handling… or should I say.. managing… their kids, treating them as if it’s a collegue at work. It’s hilarious and toe curling, to see a helpless child of 3 being asked why it spilled the glass with lemonade and seeing its Mom angrily demanding an answer. What??
How many adult men have suffered from the bullying in boarding school? How’s the situation now, in boarding schools? Do children learn by excersizing their own investigative minds or are they bullied into submission and forcefed with knowledge? With facts? Dead facts? Imagination and creativity are tools for development.
I see many adults in the UK reaching the emotional age of a 15 year old teenagers. The numerous sufferers from Alzheimer speak for themselves. If you can’t live with yourself in emotional turmoil, without knowing of solutions and you’re unconscious of the resistance to deal with it in a mature way, due to lack of education and knowledge, depression too, the way out is entering that state of being. The body is alive but the spirit has gone to the other side.
Is it the numbness, the helpless obedient attitude that we should expect to see present today in the kids of parents who are at the end of their tether? I fully agree with the view of Mike Fischer, that parents need education and need to learn to deal with their personal issues, their responsibility for having children and giving them a life in wellbeing and freedom.
Anger is a projection of one’s own frustration for being bullied in life, for having to live with emotional turmoil, in despair, one way or another. In England it seems to be high time that the population breaks free from that loop and changes its views and actions, in order to see its kids of today grow up in freedom of expression and trust in life. After all they’re defining our future and the way we live into our old age, happy with others or sad in loneliness.
Besides, in essence it’s also us defining our future, for as I perceive it, we’re the ones who create our reality, each one of us shapes our reality every moment, by the choice of our attitude. Most governments in the world have lost interest in securing the conditions to do that, for their people. Providing the support and tools.
If anyone of you expects to be cared for by a government, you live in a fairy tale.
Look how the care system and the education system has gone into decline in the UK. It’s not very different in Holland, though England has lived through this for a longer time already. This nation hasn’t outgrown the shock yet, of the end of the golden Victorian era, as I perceive it.
Ask yourself, how would you live when you picture yourself as a kid of 6 years old now? What’s the change you’d love to see in the world? Be that change and bring a change for the better into a world that allows kids to be kids, playful and without worries, without having to wonder if they’ll be like dad or mum, later, shivering in disgust or delighted with the idea.
I am a fierce worker, standing up for freedom and justice and as a Dutch woman living in the UK. I’ve discovered how a village community can thrive, I’ve been part of one and felt very much AT HOME in it, very warm welcomed in it. I’ve noticed that there’s much work waiting to be done, in order to restore the thriving and wellbeing of village communities. Hopefully we soon begin to co-operate for a change for the better.
We all need to outgrow that attitude of bullying and acting of the victim, simply for the fact that it’s not what creates a sense of belonging and a happy and emotionally healthy society. In the streets, there’s less fear in Holland, in general and there’s more directness in speaking one’s mind, leaving less residue of unoutspoken arguments and feelings. Less chance for eruptions to release tension, the scenes in Highstreets on Saturdays speak for themselves. There’s a term in the UK for people who are loud: shouters.
Hierarchy and abuse of position is present for sure, in governmental institutes and corporations, but it’s less obviously present in behavior of the “people in the streets” of the Dutch society and therefore there’s less reason to be fearful in large numbers. For fear is an emotion that is as perpetual as contagious, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy too. When in fear you will arrive in situations triggering that fear, it’s where your focus is, it’s the law of attraction. Even without us knowing it consciously, for it’s a law of life, of nature. Dogs tend to attack humans who smell of fear.
Many parents and their children, in disfunctional families, shoot at each other with bullets of anger caused by frustration and despair. We instinctively look for solutions to get rid of negative feelings and when we project them on the outside world, there’s no end to that story.
The way to end a war is to never start one, that’s true for nations as well as for relationships in family members. We’re living in a time of eruption on all levels, we’re faced with our mirrors, as a side effect of ending a way of life that is part of a disfunctional world. We need to start all over with a blank slate, sort of.
The idea of generation clash is deeply ingrained in us, apparently. Go travel to desert tribes or jungle tribes and see how intelligent and gentle these people deal with the children. The presence of attention numbing devices is causing disruption in families,
for none of the members feels seen or acknowledged anymore, each sitting in front of a screen in separate rooms, sitting at the dinner table with eyes fixed on smaller screens.
It’s called hypnosis, or a zombie-state, I presume and once people try a detox from it, they’re confronted with what’s been ignored and pushed aside, quickly running back to the safety of the screen. That’s the effect it can have on those in the web of addictional behavior.
A strong and grounded sense of identity has become a blurred concept for many, or so it seems. That’s why Facebook has to provide one, ahem. Living up to other people’s way of life or taste is damaging our creativity and use of imagination, our choice of a good life that is in sync with our nature. It’s not what we’re here for, we’re meant to live in freedom and to be the best version of ourselves we know to be, based on our own discernment and heart’s desire in freedom of expression.
Brexit and the opportunities to restore the British economy, plus the lack of a constructive approach in the British government, as I perceive it. An example:
An excellent view of a reader, with which I fully resonate, published in a Devon paper. Ceri Jayes of Lower Warren Road Kingsbridge, writes:
“The opportunities afforded to the UK on Brexit are enormous and can make us richer in many ways. Two industries on our doorstep, fishing and farming for example, could reap enormous dividends. Fishing was betrayed on our entry into the European Union by Conservative PM Edward Heath, when he signed the UK up to the common Fisheries Policy in 1970, to secure the UK’s accession to the Common Market.
Re-establishing control of the UK’s 200 mile limit and the fishing grounds within it could lead to 1.6 billion BP in catch values alone. Think of the employment opportunities that would be present to our towns of Brixham, Dartmouth and Salcombe.
The British are known for their love of animals, yet the British Government claims EU rules prevent them from ending the trade in the export of animals. The animals can be taken long distances under appalling conditions throughout the EU and to countries such as the Middle East and North Africa.
Country Life magazine reports that some 30.000 live farm animals are exported from Britain every year. Many people do not realise that horses are also exported to satisfy the continental palate. World Horse Welfare was set up 90 years ago by Ada Cole who witnessed British workhorses being unloaded and whipped for four miles to slaughter in Belgium.
I am appalled that the trade still goes on. Further evidence of the lax standards applied were witnessed by World Horse Welfare staff. In one weekend they saw 90 horseboxes, a number of which could carry 20 + horses, leaving or entering Devon with few or no welfare checks being made.
With refrigerated lorries and ships we could supply carcases only trade, which would be less harmful to the environment. We could also benefit from the ancillary industries such as tanning and create hundreds of jobs.
At the moment by sending animals on the hoof we are giving those job prospects away. If the EU referendum was a General Election, then it would have been a landslide of 408 seats for Leave and 242 for Remain. Let’s get on with it.”
July 1st 2016 I’ve done it, I now live in Devon near Dartmoor, I’ve made my dream come true, I am home where the heart is!
Here are a couple of pictures:
1. Don’t worry about going overboard with impressing us.
It’s the simple things in life we have the most fun with. The easiest way to our heart is just doing things like walking around a city exploring, going on long drives in the country on the weekend, a trip to the bookstore, conversations that last long into the night.
We value seemingly simplistic gestures over anything else because it’s in those moments where we feel we truly connect with someone.
2. We spend a lot of times in our heads.
Like, A LOT of time. Old souls create rich inner lives and it’s within ourselves where we truly flourish. When you find us lost in thought or daydreaming don’t be afraid to pull us back into the real world.
3. Don’t expect us to ever care that much about material possessions or gaining wealth or status.
To old souls, none of those things really matter. We don’t really care about how much money our partner makes or living the typical modern lifestyle with an emphasis on materialistic things.
4. Sometimes we’ll prefer hanging out by ourselves to hanging out with you.
We need a lot of alone time to reflect and decompress from whatever’s going on in our lives, and we just need the person we’re dating to understand that, rather than feel rejected or upset.
5. We hold unconventional ideas about life and standards of living.
We see the world and our life on a much larger scale and because of that, our philosophical views can impact our relationships and the way we interpret the things that happen in our lives.
6. We tend to have an easy-going and carefree nature about us but sometimes it can seem like we don’t care or like significantly hard moments aren’t as hard on us as they are for others.
It’s not that we don’t care, or we aren’t impacted on the same levels, but we see each struggle in life as a moment to learn from and make us stronger.
7. Our dreams and plans for our lives can at times seem too large for where we’re currently at in our life.
Part of seeing the world and our life on a larger scale is that we can often visualize where we’re going to be years from now, and even if something won’t happen for quite awhile, we know we’re taking the steps to get there.
To fall in love with an old soul is to fall in love with their dreams, their passion for life. Belittling our desires in life is the fastest way to ruin a romantic connection with us.
8. We don’t really have a lot of friends.
Tons and tons of acquaintances, yes, definitely, but we can probably only count our number of friends on one hand. An old soul is always a bit of a loner through life.
We feel like we just don’t fit in with the rest of the world and our self-awareness about ourselves can sometimes inhibit us from making other friendships.
9. If we say we “have a feeling” about something, just go with it.
Seriously. We often get gut instincts about people and situations. We know sometimes it may seem illogical but we’ve learned to hone in on our intuition, and it’s rarely ever wrong.
10. For us to really stay in a relationship we need a deep connection with our partner – something that goes beyond the surface level of lust, attraction, and surface similarities.
We need someone who is a freethinker and who has similar philosophical ideas about life.
11. We have a lot of paradoxical traits.
On one hand we value stability, but on the other hand we also require a lot of freedom in our lives and in our relationships. A relationship where we can have a bit of both is where we can really thrive.
12. We seek comfortable, cozy experiences.
We’re more apt to want to spend a night in making dinner, watching a movie, or listening to music together as opposed to going out to a club or bar.
We’ll join you if you really want us to go with you, of course, but just know for us – comfort is key.
13. Old souls have a very romantic view of the world and our relationships, which is great, except when we idealize things too much and become let down by our own expectations.
Our partner can help us out with this by helping us stay grounded and reminding us of the realities of life if we become a bit too in our heads about something.
14. We have a tendency to be overthinkers.
We’re highly analytical and we’re always noticing the things other people seem to skip over.
Sometimes this causes our brains to go into overdrive. This is great when you want to get the scoop on a situation or person, but because of our analytical nature it can sometimes be kind of annoying when we’re in a state of overthinking something.
15. The person we date needs to have their own desires and dreams of their own.
Old souls are looking for the kind of person who thinks for themselves and is fearless in the way they make their decisions and live their life. They have to have their own innate desire to better themselves and not just follow a path someone else has paved or told them to go down.
16. Communication is one of the greatest forms of intimacy to us.
We want to hear about your childhood, your bad day at work, the diner you go to every weekend 3 blocks out of your way because they have the best coffee and eggs, the time you broke your arm playing baseball, your plans for the weekend.
Old souls are very cerebral people. Hearing about your history, learning about the way you look at life, and how you understand the world around you based on your past experiences, is exactly what helps us to better connect with the person we’re dating.
Don’t ever think any story is too boring or unimportant. We want to hear it all.
17. We might not be seeking a life-long partnership but we still need our romantic experiences to have a deeper meaning.
We understand that people are not always meant to be with us forever – a lesson we’ve learned far too many times – but we still seek a connection that goes beyond the surface level.
We want real passion, dedication, a romance we’ll always look back on fondly.